You know literally a few months before this Loon came online she was anti~online.... phobic about the whole exposure, the privacy invaded... the potential to look into the screen and contract some terrible plague...generated by some nerd in the basement... I had a dream once and it stuck with me... OK!
But then I went online... I got connected and quickly learned from various sites, peeps, stranger friends and things how to get along.. meet and make new family and friends. I am still terrible at the phobia stuff... still a newbie when it comes into signing in ... logging on or managing to get a picture to go where I want... but at the same time great at spamming my own life
thru pics into the computer... the things I do
thru the day... saving my pics safely online after learning the depression that follows when a hard drive fries and there are a 'lifetime' of photos on there.
With anything ... its always been privacy first... never do anything that may leave a trail... my name should never be googled and found... little did I know...its tricky... hell My Love can be googled and turn up a porn star! I have always been careful knowing the life a blended family can spin to pay attention to the privacy details, and whats available out there.
Facebook was one of those things, the public forum that opens the world up like a grand park in the centre of town. Where you can say anything... be anyone(you can't be in person...learned this one fast from experience!), and share .. the details... the smiles ... the rants and raves...and sometimes... REAL life.
Now speaking as a Mama ...
facebook has entered the playground. Where I bitched about the age appropriate~
ness... the reality of life on the net and the implications of things that can haunt you forever... I have relented and turned yet another corner... thinking I should consider 'the domains of their names' and let them at it. Reality says...they do not
hotmail anymore...there is not much
MSN on the screen... the kids, the teens...they are there...
crack'n'da'book.
BUT... and here is the Loony Mama thought of the day...
there is still life...our own space... our
lifespace that tiny bit of megabyte that the KIDS don't need to be, can't hear from the next room... that extra click in our day where we say.... those thoughts are private.
Now for me ... its a personal thing as well as a Mama thing... where I know the access granted is not just viewed by my wee Boy in the Beach...where there is another set of eyes... watching. But a thing to think about for all... cause as a personal pet peeve....
I really think too many little people get to be seeing the big people things... making their young and exciting living shorter than it really has to be.
I love the connections... the smiles shared, and the chance to say hello... but really... do our kids need to see the REAL WORLD YET?
I have a policy... something to think about ... something to share...
If ya gonna be the favorite Aunt... the cousin from a far, the mom, the dad, or the
Gramma... do our kids and the rest of their school really need to Read All About It? (insert sarcasm here for any
cannucks who may remember!
LOL)
When you write your next status... just remember... 10 friends or 154... maybe 1002...
if you add a kid is it PG approved?
Resolution... when updating your latest status... click on that little padlock... click customize...and add kids under 18... it stays just that way... defaulted to block the little minds from big people thoughts... if you have something special...
quarky or true... by all means change it for a moment and default back ...
AND... just in case... what if you don't know you can...
do you want friends of friends...of their friends knowing today is the day you have cramps? today is the day you got kicked outta the laundry mat? the day you fell down in the beer store ? dropping a case of beer and taking out your comfy walking for the next six months?
you can set that too....
privacy is a right we all have...we just have to have the know how to set it...to respect it and to show it... says A. Loon April 2010
just saying... its a thought... to remember...once you post it... once you hit enter... it goes past your screen and onto the big wide web.
I was once asked about my friends adding my kids... and I replied...anyone who is my friend is not just there to share...but to have their eyes open... to watch and protect.... I believe in my friends and
fam to do this... have done it to my own wee family members... sharing the realities...the warnings, and the plain old thoughts on privacy and safety on the net...
as a note... TODAY compared to YESTERDAY... things change... like life and like tomorrow...
I have recently added a
skype feature to my laptop... I am working on a new project online... and having a freaking
KAnipTion fit doing it... the
skype is fantastic...the project... a pain in the ass (so I enlisted HELP! ) and still I type here looking at the
webcam thinking....
HAS IT BEEN HACKED?